I am not a fan of bullies. I imagine most folks feel the same as I do about bullies. Yet, too often bullies go on to bully another day because no one stands up to them and puts an end to their tirade.
I am not sure exactly how bullies are created. I have heard that it has something to do with low self-esteem…a lot of puffery to cover their own feelings of inadequacy. I admit, that is kind of sad; but, does that in any way justify bullying?
Bullies are not just found on the playground and at school bus stops. They can be found anywhere and they know no age limit. Bullying is endemic in society and part of the reason is because too many of us have allowed it to continue unchecked.
Bullies in school are often dispatched by an older sibling of the bullied individual or an adult in authority. Unfortunately, it isn’t always as simple to deal with bullies as adults. Sometimes bullies are colleagues or bosses… sometimes they are neighbors or relatives. Regardless of where they emerge in adult life dealing with them often requires diplomacy and restraint. But think about it…I mean really think about a bully you know…wouldn’t you like to take him or her down a notch? Wouldn’t you like to stop their bullying in its tracks?
I know what it is like to be bullied and do nothing. I spent years taking whatever bullies handed out, but no more. I have been outwardly acting out against bullies for a couple of decades now (sometimes to protect myself and sometimes to protect others). And I have to tell you a secret folks, if you don’t bow to their bullying their power evaporates. Standing up for yourself or others to a bully is like vaporizing them.
Hallmark and community leaders make up holidays and events all the time. Today I am making up my own. I officially declare February “Vaporize a Bully” month. No cards required just a license to tell the bullies in your life that you are tired of their antisocial behavior and you are not going to tolerate it any longer. Keep me posted on how many bullies you vaporize – there really should be an award for the Master Vaporizer – I’ll work on the award…you go work on the bullies.
Day two hundred and twelve of the new forty – obla di obla da