I read an article in The Forum on Sunday about a speed dating event to be held Monday eve. The event was for ages 28-45 but that didn’t stop me from wanting to investigate it – if only as an observer. I am fascinated with all the changes in the dating process these days and speed dating – wherein you visit with folks for about 5 minutes before moving on to the next person – has particularly piqued my interest. This new focus on speed and efficacy in dating, while obviously a byproduct of the times we live in, still causes me to question whether we have lost something important in the mating dance based on the hustle and bustle of our lives. Speed dating – really? Have we taken it too far?
The speed dating event was hosted by Xtreme Fitness, a female centric gym, located in Fargo and owned and operated by a lovely woman named Mariah Prussia. Mariah was gracious enough to allow me to attend and talk to her about speed dating – amongst other things (she is a great lady – I strongly encourage women seeking a gym home base to check Xtreme Fitness out – I think you’ll like the tone Mariah has set for the place). At any rate, this is about speed dating – the phenomenon, the functionality of it and my observations of the event.
The event was held in a big open exercise room. Mariah had music playing in the background aand beverages and snacks available. Pairs of chairs were scattered around the room in comfortable distances. It was a small group at the evnt I attended, but it didn’t deter from my ability to make some observations and draw some conclusions. I observed folks having fun – laughing and engaged in light conversation and I concluded that regardless of what you call it (and as unpalatable as speed dating may sound) – it was a means by which to connect with others and as such – it was a very good thing. Yes, I said it – I thought it to be a good thing…a very good thing.
Mariah plans to host future events at her gym – maybe with an older group or using a different approach – and I must applaud her efforts. She is helping folks create connections and isn’t that where all relationships begin? I like that the connections are created face to face in an environment that mimics cocktail party mixing and mingling. It is heartening to see people react to each other one-on-one – even if it is only for a limited time.
I’ll be keeping my eyes open for Mariah’s next speed dating event – who knows, maybe I’ll even attend…I do have cocktail party mixing and mingling down to a science…I think I might be a natural at speed dating.
Day three hundred and seventy-three of the new forty – obla di obla da