This day marks the tenth Mother’s Day that I have been without my mother. I no longer go to the Mother’s Day card aisle looking for the perfect card. Mostly I just sigh as I pass the aisle and think about how that part of my life is gone now.
It is good that there is a holiday designed to appreciate mothers. I think that even though we love them and can readily acknowledge their importance in our life, we just don’t take the time often enough to say thank you for the many things they give us that are somewhat intangible.
I wish I still had my mom here. I envy those who still have the luxury of talking with and seeing their moms. There is no replacement for a mom. Moms play a unique role in our lives and regardless of whether they are of the June Cleaver or Roseanne Conner variety – or somewhere in-between – they leave a hole when they are gone.
This month’s Glamour magazine featured a list of 11 Times You Still Need Your Mother (written by Kimberley Bonnell and Pamela Redmond Satran) that reminded me of many of the ways I miss my mother. I share it with you today in honor of Mother’s Day and as a reminder to those of you who still have your mom with you that a mother’s role in your life doesn’t end at age 21, 31, 41, or even 51 – moms hold a spot forever…remember and honor that day-in and day-out.
11 Times You Still Need Your Mother
1. When the love of your life gives you a diamond ring…or meets someone else.
2. The moment you pee on a stick and it’s (OMG!) positive.
3. On the morning of your birthday, when no one else is going to call till noon.
4. When someone gives you a compliment so lavish you’d be embarrassed to repeat it to anyone else.
5. When you find a lump. Or she does.
6. When the kids you’re babysitting won’t stop crying.
7. When you get your first pink-eye or food processor…or mother-in-law.
8. When you need someone to assure you that, yes, 30 (or 40!) is still really, really young.
9. When you need to know the exact shade to fix your undereye circles.
10. When the recipe calls for evaporated milk and you’re standing in the grocery aisle wondering, is that a powder? A liquid? A gas?
11. When you’ve swung up to the sky, and it doesn’t seem real until she applauds.
Day six hundred and seventy-one of the new forty – obla di obla da