I am not the jerk whisperer…

I must confess that when faced with negativity my first inclination is to try and turn it around – something along the lines of turning a frown upside down.  I can’t say that such efforts are always successful or even fulfilling when they are successful, but I am not a fan of conflict so I opt for diffusing it when possible. 

I have learned however that diffusing conflict in social media arenas is next to impossible – all you have are words, reason and logic.  In the quick click world those don’t get you too far.  There are so many folks who are willing to cut someone else down without a thought with a barbed one-liner on social media sites like Facebook.  There really is nothing quite like getting slapped across the face in a forum that can be seen by all your closest friends and friends’ friends.

Today, one of my colleagues posted the perfect statement about those folks who “hate” others just for the heck of it.  I like it so much that I am sharing it here and encouraging others to stop wasting time trying to turn these folks around.  Maybe if we stop trying to turn them around they will stop their negativity.

So if you are a online hater take note – I am not the jerk whisperer.   I may be the jerk slapper, kicker or ignorer – but I won’t be trying to turn your frown upside down. ;-)

Day seven hundred and eighty of the new forty – obla di obla da

Ms. C

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I teach at NDSU...but I remain a student of life with all the enthusiasm that entails. My favorite saying is, "Sometimes you have to take the leap and build your wings on the way down." In the new forty that is what I am doing...building my wings.
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4 Responses to I am not the jerk whisperer…

  1. Katherine says:

    Please post this on facebook and Fierce Girls. Thanks, Katherine

  2. You are in fact a Jerk Whisperer. One of the healthy qualities of a Jerk Whisperer is that they can leave their poisons behind. They have trained themselves to start each day, stop in the middle of the day, and end each day with the art of quarantining their poisons. If you spend 10 minutes with a toxic person, leave them there. Don’t put them in the passengers seat of you life and drive them around all day! They don’t deserve to own your power. Quarantine your poisons. When you do, you are a Jerk Whisperer. Peace.

  3. Kurt Keefner says:

    Thank you, Ms. C, for publishing this. I am a writer and as part of my research or promotion I have to deal with jerks online. I’ve learned not to argue with them. I have nothing to prove to them. It doesn’t matter to me if they are wrong or if they think badly of me. I was not put on this earth (metaphorically speaking) to “fix” them. I try to remember who I am and what my purpose is and stick with those.

    I am not the jerk whisperer.

  4. PISCEAN GAL says:

    This is awesome! Just last week, I was called all kinds of names because of a misunderstanding over a picture. I shared this, thank you!!

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