I saw this saying on a necklace in a catalog and I have not been able to get it out of my mind. It is one of those sentiments that speaks to the power of hope, the potential of determination, and the opportunity for change – all the stuff that I believe allows us as human beings to help write our own script while we are here on the planet. The saying captures both the recognition of control and the potency of time in the arena of fresh starts. It allows for personal evolution from long-standing thoughts and behaviors…it allows for new words on a slate that has been filled with other less desirable words in the past.
There is a another saying – “The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.” This saying when applied to human beings and less than desirable past behavior denotes that one’s future in others’ minds is spotted with the behaviors of the past. This is where words like always and never come into play…this is where the belief in a spotless future goes to die – at least in others’ minds.
Interestingly, both of these sayings are true. The difference between the two lies in the individual’s desire to create a different tomorrow. Often it isn’t easy – old habits are comfortable and they do indeed die hard; the environments that mold us can also seem to enslave us; and, the behaviors of others around us can affect us dramatically. It isn’t always easy to believe that the future is ours to write in the complex world we live in. Others may not believe in our ability or dedication to change our tomorrows based on our yesterdays and so often the opinions of others imprints us with the feeling of limitation.
I ask you to hold on to the notion that you are the writer of your own script, that you are the constant presence in your life that you have control over. I ask you to look past the words and actions of others who don’t believe you can or will create the change you seek. You have a spotless future should you choose and commit to it.
Day one thousand one hundred and forty of the new forty – obla di obla da