I have shared on my blog in the past my disdain for the delightful changes I am experiencing in perimenopause. I refuse to suffer this assault on my body silently under an umbrella of shame. I am fortunate to have friends who have shared their experiences with perimenopause with me; as such, I was more clued into what types of things to expect than most. Alas, the onslaught of the myriad of symptoms attached to perimenopause can drive even an informed person to the very edge of their sanity.
I was delighted – no, make that DELIGHTED!!!!!!!! – to learn about the new website for perimenopausal women sponsored by Poise. The website – the2ndtalk.com - is a treasure trove of information, but the best part of the website – BY FAR – are the short videos by women talking about their symptoms. Check those videos out here and send every woman you know there as well. As the site name denotes, this is the 2nd talk that every woman should have – if not with her mother or friends, then in the community of women that is gathering at the 2nd talk website.
I say the hell with suffering in silence and wondering whether what you are experiencing is normal or not. This experience is not a day in the park…it is not sunshine and lollipops. This experience will cause you to question if something is seriously wrong with you mentally, physically, and emotionally. There are so many symptoms that fall under the banner of perimenopause that you will begin to say to yourself each time a new one materializes, “This too??!! Are you freakin’ kidding me???!!!” Okay, maybe that is just me.
That is why the community of the sisterhood is so important to tap into at this time. Watch the videos, read the blogs, find your story in others’ stories…trust me it helps an awful lot to understand that you are not alone. I promise you, you will laugh in commiseration and you will leave the site relieved.
Perimenopause can go on for years and have some significant effects on women. The effects can affect women’s relationships, careers, and sense of well-being. Everyone that comes in contact with women (hence, EVERYONE) should become better informed about perimenopause. Understanding the magnitude of the change women’s bodies undergo during the march toward menopause will help folks see past symptoms and allow them to better support the women around them.
For all my sisters presently in the heat of the battle (an appropriate pun to be sure), hold your heads up high. Go to the2ndtalk.com and engage in the 2nd talk. You are not alone, you are not going crazy, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Hang in there – I am with you in spirit and hot flashes.
Day one thousand one hundred and forty-two of the new forty – obla di obla da