Try it with or without the adverb…

Oprah emails me regularly.  She keeps me updated on what is going on with her; shares with me what books she thinks I should read; lets me know helpful information about how to stay in good health; keeps me abreast of the top financial thoughts; and, shares warm, fuzzy stuff that helps me be a better human.  Truth be told, most days I cannot get through all of the stuff in her emails.  That woman has too much time on her hands these days.  I, on the other hand, do not have nearly enough. As such, I skim her emails most days and on occasion I click through to look at an article or slide show that is of interest.

Such was the case with the column/slide show presentation by Leigh Newman titled: 10 Insanely Nice Things You Can Say to Anybody.  I was immediately intrigued about what nice thing I could say that would qualify as “insanely nice.”   I think I have nice mastered most days, but “insanely nice” would seem on its face to be to nice as extreme sports are to regular sports – with just regular level nice and sports being basic, mundane, and even a bit pedestrian.  I reasoned that while I may not ever be able to take sports or other like ventures to the insane level, I certainly should be able to take up my nice comments to the next level.

Apparently, I was unaware of the force of my existing nice.  I enjoyed the column/slide show, but I didn’t really feel that my nice game was taken to another level.  Here are the 10 “insanely nice” things you can say:

“Take your time. I’m not in a rush.”

“Three different sources have confirmed that you’re generous, nice to animals and funny.”

“The way you eat a sandwich is so elegant”

“I saw what you did, and please don’t think I’m a nut case, but it restored my faith in the human race.”

“You have a genius not understood by mere mortals.”

“That’s awful.”

“I love the sound of your voice.”

“I am not inviting him to my birthday party.”

“You bring me joy. You make me happy.”

“I just can’t make this decision without you.”

The niceness in these statements is fairly clear for most of them, but a few have contextual underpinnings that make them nice based on a given situation.  Read Newman’s article for more about why she thinks these are “insanely nice” things to say.  I personally think they all fall into garden-variety nice, but I guess nice with or without the adverb is still a notable goal for our daily interactions with others.  Perhaps Newman should have looked to Oprah herself for some “insanely nice” things to say – she has a few classics.

“You get a car…and you get a car…and you get a car…you all get a car!”

“Your novel has been selected for my book club.”

“What you have to say is so important that I knew my viewers had to hear it.”

Now that is “insanely nice” – I will work toward that.  Thanks for the forward Oprah. ;-)

Day one thousand three hundred and forty-four of the new forty – obla di obla da

Ms. C

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I teach at NDSU...but I remain a student of life with all the enthusiasm that entails. My favorite saying is, "Sometimes you have to take the leap and build your wings on the way down." In the new forty that is what I am doing...building my wings.
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3 Responses to Try it with or without the adverb…

  1. B-dubya says:

    …..and then there are those who, by their “tuned in” nature, always validate, uplift and inspire those around them without any tips or advice.

    What a coincidence that this article came from Oprah’s page, because “Gayle” ;-) is one such person!

  2. Sheri says:

    If someone told me that the way I ate a sandwich was ‘elegant’ I might consider them a bit strange before I thought of them as insanely nice (unless the insane part is the more important half of the phrase) :)

  3. Elisabeth Haiberg says:

    Very “nice”

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