Today California’s Defense of Marriage Act was ruled unconstitutional by the United States Supreme Court. Today our country’s constitution once again served as the foundation for equal rights. Today the message from the Supreme Court was clear -marriage will be treated the same for the purposes of legality and benefits regardless of whether the marriage is between a heterosexual couple or a homosexual couple. Today has been a good day.
I have long supported the gay rights movement. I have watched gay and lesbian friends deal with ignorance, hatred, and discrimination for decades. I have seen friends be ostracized by churches and congregations they were devoted to. I have heard of families who abandon family members who have come out of the closet. I have heard and felt their anguish when they were treated as societal pariahs. I could not condone that treatment of human beings.
I think God should have made me a Black lesbian. That would have put the full potency of my advocacy skills to the test. Of course, that would have burdened both Black Americans and lesbians as I am a handful. It must be true that God never gives folks more than they can handle – God was clearly sparing others by not making me a Black lesbian. I do believe I would have been a fierce black lesbian though because I would not relent…and I would have completely taken the doors of the closet that society would want to keep me in.
Alas, I am nothing more than a white heterosexual – very bland in contrast. And while I completely understand inequality as it applies to certain gender matters, as a white woman I have no first-person orientation to the realities of racial discrimination. The same is true with being a run-of-the-mill heterosexual, I can be sympathetic to the plight of gays and lesbians, but I don’t really know all the pain involved as I am not privy to it. I just see these things from the outside looking in. My indignation in regard to all discrimination and unequal treatment is based on my general belief in fairness and equality for all people.
I thought the full recognition of gay rights would come many years ago, but then the bible thumping faction came out in force and took us back to the pray away the gay mentality. You can’t pray away the gay. I tried to pray away the bigots, that had a bit better success, but it was far too long in the coming. So many gays and lesbians never lived to see this day when they could be viewed as equal – the day where the stigma began to be stripped away.
Today has been a good day. Today good people who have been fighting a good fight for decades can go to sleep knowing that the shift has occurred. No amount of bible thumping, propagandized political blathering, or fear will be able to change the reality that this country took a critical step today. This equality thing, it’s here to stay. Finally.
Day one thousand four hundred and forty-nine of the new forty – obla di obla da