Cheyenne has little patience for moodiness in anyone other than herself. Early on in our trip to Canada she felt obliged to share with me that when men in the family were moody they were “manstrating” or perhaps going through “manopause”. I must tell you, I did laugh out loud at that. I couldn’t help myself. It just struck me as so funny. I know I should have said something mature and parent-like instead of laughing, but I didn’t.
Of course I repeated this little bit of Cheyenne wisdom to others with great glee over the next few weeks. Not everyone was as amused with it as I was – particularly not the men. Go figure. Men don’t like being told they are being moody and they particularly don’t like labels that bear resemblance to women’s biological functions.
I found that to be very telling after having been asked repeatedly over my post-puberty lifetime whether I was on my period each time I was perceived to be moody. And now that I am in the period of glorious change (also know as the unrelenting state of perimenopause) I am saddled with the assumption that I am prone to mood swings. I have been subject to 40 years of moodiness labeling based solely on my body’s biology and now that Cheyenne has crafted a couple of words that might suggest that moodiness in men can also be labeled there is a sense of righteous indignation in the men so labeled???
My response to that – REALLY??!! Men are going to wring their hands over that after all the things women have to go through? Periods, cramps, pregnancy, childbirth, menopause – that is the reality of womenfolk. Hormones up and down for decades causing a whole collection of maladies and enough money spent on feminine hygiene products through the years to have paid for the whole lot of us to spend a glorious two weeks in an Italian villa drinking fine wine with a bevy of young, tone, skilled Italian lovers.
You have a problem with the terms of the day gentlemen? Well, you must be manstrating or maybe you are going through manopause, because we all know that moodiness is all about hormones right? No…I am not bitter and I am not on my period (knock on wood that ship has sailed). I am just ready for men to go with the flow the same way women have for centuries. 😉
Day one thousand five hundred and four of the new forty – obla di obla da