I am back on my Oprah sexual health reading again. I bounce between the sex and financial articles (which says something about me that probably requires deeper analysis by a mental health professional). At any rate, I love the factoids I find in the little articles on Oprah’s site. Some I find humorous and some I find a bit startling. It was the latter reaction when I read that “about 7 percent of married people and 17.7 percent of partnered people in their 30s and 40s say they haven’t had sex in the past year, according to the 2010 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior.”
Wow. That cannot be good. Or at least it wasn’t good news in 2010. I guess we could hold out hope that things have improved. I am most startled by the age group. I understand that folks at this age are likely working full-time and raising families – I imagine they are exhausted. But no sex for a year? That is an awful long stretch without that level of intimacy. In my estimation, if you are changing your smoke alarm batteries more often than you are having sex, you should probably start changing your smoke alarm batteries in the nude to set off some other alarms and increase your sex quota. Even falling back to sex once a month in that age bracket is a stretch (at least by my thinking).
The article with this factoid was quick to point out that regular sex has many benefits. It said that sex “improves the muscle tone of the pelvic floor, lubricates the vaginal tissues, can help prevent yeast infections, releases stress, and eases migraines, chronic back pain and PMS-related cramps.” It can even “lower your risk of developing heart disease and can boost your immune system.”
So the message from Oprah and her crew is to get busy if for nothing else, then for your health. I am not an expert sex researcher, but I can tell you one thing from anecdotal evidence I have accumulated over the years – people who have sex regularly are happier people. Your mood also affects your well-being. We won’t even get into how valuable that level of intimacy is in keeping relationships strong.
The bottom line is – sex is a good thing. Don’t let it slip away in your relationship. Give it your all, if not once a week, then at least once a month. Don’t let me see this same data factoid from 2014 pop up in a future Oprah article. Get busy!!!
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